REASONS WHY A WOMAN MAY SAY NO TO A MAN By MARY MORRIS

Why do you think a whole lot of men get frustrated trying to unravel what a woman really want??

 

Is it not amazing that people still see it as an issue of concern, the difficulty of understanding a woman. We all know that women are emotional beings. They're unique also on the other hand men are technical.

 

Women are, however, believed to have superiority in emotional competence such as understanding other people’s emotions embedded in facial cues.

 

In my experience,  a woman can reject a man for just about anything, to be honest. In most cases, they'll usually reject a guy for VISUAL and OBSERVATIONAL reasons such as;

1. She doesn't find him sexually attractive.

2. She doesn't like his approach or courting style.

3. She feels you can't take care of her needs.

4. She doesn't feel comfortable talking to him.

 

And it could be any little thing!

 

But there's one way to be rejected by a woman that is not really a bad thing when you think about it and that is when you are AUTO REJECTED!

 

Auto rejection only happens when a woman rejects you not on observational or visual cues like above but more because of other reasons best known to her...

 

Base on related materials;

 

1. She's already committed. Whether she has a boyfriend, a crush on someone or is stuck on her ex, she won't give you a second glance if she's emotionally committed to some other guy. 

 

2. Your looks don't match her standards. In other words, you are not in her league or her “type” of guy. The truth is, physical appearances matter, especially when you first meet someone. No, you don't have to be George Clooney or Brad Pitt to blow her away. But, you do have to dress well, smell good and stand up straight. Want to improve on this? I think the way to do so is pretty obvious. Make an effort to dress well, look clean, have a fresh haircut and smell good.

 

3. Your approach caught her off-guard. If she's not used to being approached so directly, then your move might have caught her off-guard. She might dismiss you immediately. You'll know this is happening if she looks confused, or even throws you some fugitive glances after the rejection has occurred. Some initial flirting will hint to your intentions while easing into the approach. This will allow her to prepare a reaction. Always let her see you coming. That's what a man does. He shows his intentions.

 

4. She has sensed you're just in for 'a catch.' There's nothing worse than making a woman feel like she's simply another notch in your bedpost. If she already saw you hitting on other girls and getting shut down, she's already smelled your desperation. There is no way she will accept your advances. When you approach a woman, you need to make her feel like you're genuinely into her. Therefore, if one interaction seems to yield the results you're after, keep it simple. Approach a woman, and if nothing looks promising after 20 minutes of conversation, move on. Don't approach more than three or four women in one place. There are plenty of eyes looking around, and rumours spread fast. Accept when you're having a bad night, and either switch venues or go home.

 

5. You can't make her feel special. If the woman is already talking to you, but you see that with each passing moment, she's losing interest, learn that rejection is about to hit you. If this happens, you need to think about things. Were you a total assh*le in your words or actions? Did you give her enough attention? Did you ask her questions about herself? Did you listen to her and genuinely show interest? Believe me, the success of your approach is vastly influenced by your ability to make her feel special. She is not solely interested in learning about you. It is human nature. If you make a person feel good, he or she will let his or her guard down. Make her feel interesting and appealing, and she will be interested in and attracted to you. Does this happen because of the mere desire to find out why somebody else likes us? Is it a chemical reaction? Who knows. Frankly, who cares, as long as it works? Making a woman feel special is really what it's all about. If you really master it, the rest is all simply a matter of scenery and timing.

 

6. You have a bad reputation. When a negative reputation foresees your intentions, it is hard (and can somehow even be impossible) to show them. This is one of the main reasons addicts of all sorts find it hard to change their lives. The easy way out of this badly reputed zone is to change your social circle. Find new venues, dare to go out alone and try new approaches. It's difficult to truly make a change. Shock these people in a positive way to show you're not that flabby guy they thought you were. Stay away from alcohol for a while if that's your thing, and let them see you're strong. You can better yourself, and you will. Prove to everyone you have standards, principles and virtues, and that you're able to pull yourself up from whatever vicious circle you're in.

 

7. You're pushing for a one-night stand. Letting her know that all you want is to get laid always equals rejection. Besides, a woman will never say yes to absolutely diffident & dumb man. Simply a woman doesn’t like you. Tastes differ. A Woman who once dealt with a mean man and are absolutely sure that all males are the cause of troubles in life, there’re no other reasons for saying No except that you’re a Man.

ABOUT THE WRITER

Mary Morris a.k.a Mazzyqueen

Code Number: OS/19C/1426

Course: Physics

Institution: University of Maiduguri

State of Origin: Kaduna State