LOVE AND AGE by Emmanuel ANENE
LOVE AND AGE by
Emmanuel ANENE
In life, we are bound by love. But the word LOVE means different things to different people. To some, it is an avenue to exploit naive or unsuspecting people; to others, it is an expression of heartfelt feelings towards someone.
Here, I will discuss the true nature of what love is, as coined out from the golden rule in the Bible (reference: Matthew 7:12). "Therefore, all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets."
In some other religions, Love is upheld as the greatest relationship one have with every human. It is shared to the older folks or the younger ones. Simply, it is sharing good vibes expected of oneself with others.
In the context of the topic Love and Age; I will relate love in terms of intimacy enveloped in relationship with the opposite sex. It is all over us. We feel it. We see it and we discuss it at length.
“A factor that does impact on the relationship outcomes of age-gap couples is their perceptions of social disapproval. That is, if people in age-gap couples believe their family, friends and wider community disapprove of their union, then relationship commitment decreases and the risk of break-up increases.” (Mind the Gap article on TheConversation)
Many have disputed this fact especially in Sub-Saharan Africa where age differences are widely seen as a basis for intellectual growth in lives of individual. This view is never out of place when you see the antecedents of the greater population of young ones in Africa who lack experience and misplace priorities.
So, does age really matter in a relationship that Love is evident?
To answer this question, it can be answered from two sides of the coin. It is a Yes and a No answer.
It is Yes in some certain experience just like I said above. To buttress the point, the likes of relationships we see in young people today termed love is actually lust of the body. In creation, humans are the greatest species above all creatures given the choice to make decisions. These decisions can be wrong or right and it determines the outcome of our actions. When it comes to situation and affection of love in less-experienced people, there are greater chances of being driven more by emotions rather than intentions. Love is an intentional experience which is attached with emotions to establish the relationship. It goes awol when inexperienced individuals are used for satisfaction. This attitude sometimes comes from one partner dubious and cognizant of the naive state of the partner and the disturbing fact is that often-times the end is devastating with shreds of evidence of hatred for each other.
On the other hand, it is a No. Experiences happen to people at different times in life, causing some to grow up faster or slower than the norm. You can be 24 years old with the mindset of a 45-year-old or vice versa. There are many scenarios where the female partner is older than the male partner which is sometimes seen as something absurd in society. For instance, a ten-year gap between a 20-year-old and a 30-year-old young people may bring up different challenges and issues than for a ten-year gap where one partner is 53 and the other is 63 of experienced partners.
The fact that society fails to see most times is the heart of the lovebirds who have intertwined and connected deep in love. Just because someone is a certain age of growth doesn't mean he or she fits a certain status quo, there are variations. We often put up walls and flee for the mountains, but before shutting the door on the chance at love, think about your potential lover's maturity level. If you both are on the same level of maturity, don't let the attached age number cloud your decision
Maybe you met an older lover when you were still immature. Each person we meet has a purpose in our life. Not only does society judge dating outside our ages, but it also expects that we all age and develop at the same rate. It is expected that with age comes maturity, which isn't true.
Maturity is something that develops after experiences we face in life; you don't just magically become mature on your 25th birthday. You can mature at a very young age, or maybe, you never truly mature.
If you both want the same thing from the relationship, then you have settled half the battle. Just like couples who are the same age, if you aren't on the same page, things will be just as difficult. Allow love to work its mysterious magic if you find yourself having a special connection with someone who is older or younger than you. Explore it and let it grow beautifully.
Love and Age are disputable but when it occurs deeply, give it a chance.
Emmanuel ANENE
OS/19C/1511
Electrical & Electronic Engineering
Federal Polytechnic Oko
Emmanuel ANENE
In life, we are bound by love. But the word LOVE means different things to different people. To some, it is an avenue to exploit naive or unsuspecting people; to others, it is an expression of heartfelt feelings towards someone.
Here, I will discuss the true nature of what love is, as coined out from the golden rule in the Bible (reference: Matthew 7:12). "Therefore, all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets."
In some other religions, Love is upheld as the greatest relationship one have with every human. It is shared to the older folks or the younger ones. Simply, it is sharing good vibes expected of oneself with others.
In the context of the topic Love and Age; I will relate love in terms of intimacy enveloped in relationship with the opposite sex. It is all over us. We feel it. We see it and we discuss it at length.
“A factor that does impact on the relationship outcomes of age-gap couples is their perceptions of social disapproval. That is, if people in age-gap couples believe their family, friends and wider community disapprove of their union, then relationship commitment decreases and the risk of break-up increases.” (Mind the Gap article on TheConversation)
Many have disputed this fact especially in Sub-Saharan Africa where age differences are widely seen as a basis for intellectual growth in lives of individual. This view is never out of place when you see the antecedents of the greater population of young ones in Africa who lack experience and misplace priorities.
So, does age really matter in a relationship that Love is evident?
To answer this question, it can be answered from two sides of the coin. It is a Yes and a No answer.
It is Yes in some certain experience just like I said above. To buttress the point, the likes of relationships we see in young people today termed love is actually lust of the body. In creation, humans are the greatest species above all creatures given the choice to make decisions. These decisions can be wrong or right and it determines the outcome of our actions. When it comes to situation and affection of love in less-experienced people, there are greater chances of being driven more by emotions rather than intentions. Love is an intentional experience which is attached with emotions to establish the relationship. It goes awol when inexperienced individuals are used for satisfaction. This attitude sometimes comes from one partner dubious and cognizant of the naive state of the partner and the disturbing fact is that often-times the end is devastating with shreds of evidence of hatred for each other.
On the other hand, it is a No. Experiences happen to people at different times in life, causing some to grow up faster or slower than the norm. You can be 24 years old with the mindset of a 45-year-old or vice versa. There are many scenarios where the female partner is older than the male partner which is sometimes seen as something absurd in society. For instance, a ten-year gap between a 20-year-old and a 30-year-old young people may bring up different challenges and issues than for a ten-year gap where one partner is 53 and the other is 63 of experienced partners.
The fact that society fails to see most times is the heart of the lovebirds who have intertwined and connected deep in love. Just because someone is a certain age of growth doesn't mean he or she fits a certain status quo, there are variations. We often put up walls and flee for the mountains, but before shutting the door on the chance at love, think about your potential lover's maturity level. If you both are on the same level of maturity, don't let the attached age number cloud your decision
Maybe you met an older lover when you were still immature. Each person we meet has a purpose in our life. Not only does society judge dating outside our ages, but it also expects that we all age and develop at the same rate. It is expected that with age comes maturity, which isn't true.
Maturity is something that develops after experiences we face in life; you don't just magically become mature on your 25th birthday. You can mature at a very young age, or maybe, you never truly mature.
If you both want the same thing from the relationship, then you have settled half the battle. Just like couples who are the same age, if you aren't on the same page, things will be just as difficult. Allow love to work its mysterious magic if you find yourself having a special connection with someone who is older or younger than you. Explore it and let it grow beautifully.
Love and Age are disputable but when it occurs deeply, give it a chance.
Emmanuel ANENE
OS/19C/1511
Electrical & Electronic Engineering
Federal Polytechnic Oko
Waoow! What a nice article. Keep it up my dear. More grease to your power
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Nice one Mr. Ferguson. Keep moving to the permanent site.
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