*Can i love her and still cheat on her? by Akintunde Oyeteju*

CAN I LOVE HER AND STILL CHEAT ON HER?

“Can i love her and still cheat on her?” This question ran through my mind for days.

I decided to answer this question in my head, but first, I had to define ‘love’ and ‘cheat’.

Simply put, love is a deep feeling of affection and attraction towards someone. Meanwhile the word cheat means to act dishonestly or unfairly in order to gain an advantage.

What does it mean to be in love?
Love itself is a lot of things but being in love is more than just a feeling. It involves taking actions that proves and validates that one has a deep feeling of affection for another.

Love makes you feel good. Love is empathic. It understands differences and accepts them. Love is the absence of fear. It is the absence of expectations; it allows you accept your partner just the way they are and not expect that they change to please you.
Love doesn’t play the victim role or manipulate others. It gives no room for  jealousy or envy of what your partner is becoming or what they have. Love is honest and transparent.

Can I cheat on someone I love?

Cheating is complex because the definition varies so widely.
Cheating doesn’t only involve having sexual relationships with others which is physical infidelity, it ranges from violating your partner’s expectations which can leave them feeling emotionally betrayed, flirting with others, becoming emotionally attached to someone which can be summed up to emotional infidelity, purchasing intimate gifts and presents for another person, the list goes on and on.

To be candid, words like ‘love’ and ‘cheat’ can’t be on the same side. They are like two parallel lines that can never meet. Because one connotes positivity and the other negative vibes.


I can’t love her and cheat on her because to love her is to want to share my intimacy exclusively with her and that includes my time, resources, feelings, worries and sexuality.
Loving her is a commitment and for me to be committed, I have to be self disciplined. When I make a promise to love her, I have to keep to it because my word means something to me. Integrity is important.

I can’t love her and cheat on her because I would be robbing myself of being perceived and seen as a man of honor. I would be cheating myself of good times that I could have together with her.

I’d rather spend time looking for new ways to rekindle the love I have for her than cheat. Who knows if I’d ever meet someone like her again?

The bottom line is, I can’t love her and cheat on her because love is a beautiful thing and it would make so much sense if loyalty is undebatable.

NAME: Akintunde Oyeteju Chisom

STATE CODE: OS/19B/3420

SCHOOL: Olabisi Onabanjo university Ago Iwoye

COURSE STUDIED: Mass Communication 

STATE OF ORIGIN: Oyo State